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Somewhere along the way we were all handed a few rules. Handle it yourself. Don’t make a fuss. Need nothing. These posts are about what those rules cost, and what happens when you stop keeping them. The one about why asking is so hard is a fine place to start.
I’m Acelli, a licensed counselor in Cedar Park, and a lot of what’s on this blog picks rules like those apart. The posts are short, a few minutes each, and there’s no need to read them all, or in any order.
If you say yes when you mean no, there’s a post on saying no without the guilt. Are you the friend everyone vents to? Try the one about listening without taking it all on. Maybe it’s anxiety that won’t quiet down. Maybe a relationship just ended, or you’ve started doubting your own worth, and there are posts on those too. Want to know what I do about anxiety, or about trauma? That’s on the anxiety page and the trauma and EMDR page.
Posts
- Why am I so anxious in my relationship?
- High-functioning anxiety: why success still feels exhausting
- Why do I get the Sunday scaries?
- Why do I wake up at 3 a.m.?
- What does high-functioning trauma look like?
- Why did I just have a panic attack for no reason?
- What trauma creates a people pleaser?
- How do you stop pretending to be okay?
- Is it stress or anxiety?
- Why am I struggling so much with everything?
- Helping or Supporting? The Difference That Burns Us Out
- Why Does Being a Mom Feel This Overwhelming?
- Give Your Worry an Appointment
- A Smaller Holiday Still Counts
- Getting Through It Isn’t the Same as Being Okay
- Still at the Party and Still in Your Head
- Out of People for the Day
- The Voice That Sounds Like It’s on Your Side
- You Can Listen Without Carrying It Home
- Is It Time to Walk Away?
- Your Parents Raised a Woman Who Disagrees
- Why Is It So Hard to Ask for Help?
- When Sorry Shows Up Before You’re Ready
- Whose Score Is That?
- A Loss With No Funeral
- Why Do I Feel Guilty for Saying No to My Family?
- Saying No Is Harder Than It Should Be
- Mourning a Good Relationship
- 3 Tips to Boost Your Confidence
- 5 Quick Tips for Self-Care
- Perfectly Imperfect
What I’m reading right now
- My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Mending of Our Bodies and HeartsMy current professional read. This book was recommended to me by a therapist friend. I love that the author takes time to allow for just “noticing”,--especially while navigating trauma. Reading this one slowly.
- Good Morning, Monster: A Therapist Shares Five Heroic Stories of Emotional RecoveryThis is another professional read. I love the case conceptualizations in this one.
- KinReading this one for fun!
When you’re ready, request a time or write to me.