The things you’d ask if you weren’t worried about asking.

Of course it is. You’re about to sit down with a stranger and say things out loud, some of them for the first time. You’ll probably spend the drive over, or the minute before you click join, deciding what not to say. You don’t have to shake the nerves off before you come. Bring them in with you, and if you’d like to start with the nerves themselves, we can.

No. Plenty of the women I see held it together alone for years before they ever came to me. Nope. That’s the job you were handed, and the job never ends. Coming here is the first thing in a long time that’s for you.

You don’t have to walk in with a speech. I’ll have questions, and if you go blank in the middle of one, that’s fine too. There’s a bit more about the first session on my How I work page, if you want it ahead of time.

I won’t drag anything out of you. What we talk about, and when, is up to you, and that stays true for as long as we work together.

I’ve cried in session myself, with a client in the room, and the first time I was convinced I’d done it all wrong. I hadn’t. Crying in there doesn’t mean you’re doing this badly, in a first session or any other.

I cuss in session, a lot, so you won’t be the first person in that room to say it how you’d say it at home. There’s more of what I’m like on my About page.

Worried it’ll get out somehow? Unless you’re in danger, or somebody else is, it won’t. What you tell me stays with me, and if you want to know exactly how that works, ask me on the free phone call, or any time once we’ve started.

Part of it you can sense from reading this site. The rest? The free call, a first session, and how you feel once you’ve left. If you walked out a little lighter, or at least less alone with it, we talk about a second one. I’m not the right fit for everyone, and that’s something we work out together.

Anxiety, mostly. The everyday kind, panic, OCD tendencies, and the kind that follows a big change. Underneath it, for a lot of women, is trauma: sexual trauma, domestic abuse, what came down through your family, what you’ve carried because of your race, or a relationship that kept you small. I’m EMDR trained, and I draw on person-centered work, mindfulness, CBT and DBT skills depending on what you need that week. How I work has the longer answer, under What I’m trained in. If what you’re carrying isn’t in that answer, ask me on the free call. I’ll tell you straight if I’m not the right person for it.

It’s not an overnight thing. It’s different for everyone, and I won’t pretend there’s a set number. Some find six months is enough for what’s right in front of them, and some stay longer because they feel more supported that way, so we check in as we go.

It’s free, and it takes about 15 to 20 minutes. Use it for your questions: how I work, what a session is like, whatever’s on your mind. You can tell me what’s going on too, or not yet. It’s me who answers. If it doesn’t feel right, say so and hang up, and that’s the end of it. If it does, we find a time.

It’s a two-way interview. That’s my way of saying you’re sizing me up as much as I’m getting to know you. I’ll ask about your life right now and what you’d want out of this, and you get to ask me things too, like why I do this at all.

It’s $150 a session, about fifty minutes each. You pay me directly, not your insurance company. When you book, I’ll send you a written estimate of what sessions will cost. It’s called a good faith estimate, and you can ask me for one any time. Whether your plan gives some of it back to you afterward is up to them, and I wrote that whole part out on Fees.

I read it myself. I answer it myself too, within 48 hours and usually within 24.

Call or text 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. It’s free, it’s 24/7, and a trained counselor answers. If you can’t talk, text. Any message starts it. If you’re in danger right now, or it’s a medical emergency, call 911 instead. Don’t wait on me tonight. The rest of what I’d say is on Contact, under “If tonight is bad”.